Tuesday, August 27, 2013
Rescuing Our Society from Rescuing…
Stories of the harmful effects of over-parenting and constant rescuing flood our news media. From parents contacting college professors to argue grades, to calling employers to lobby for their grown kids' raises, to suing schools for having the boldness to kick kids off sports teams for refusing to practice, to kids having no idea how to support themselves financially into their 30's… it is mind-boggling.
Jim Fay warned us about helicopter parenting way back in the 1970's and his words have proven true. Fewer young adults feel responsible for their own destinies and more of them are living at home without much ambition to leave. More grandparents are taking care of their kids' offspring - and their kids' debts.
At the Love and Logic Institute, we want to change the world. We want to help raise more responsible young people who are able to solve problems and take care of themselves out in the world. We know they can do it. All they really need are messages that say they can… and some practice.
If you wanted your child to play the accordion – but never allowed him or her to hold one (because it is too heavy), would you be surprised if he or she never got very good at it?
Often, we do the same thing with solving problems. Kids who never practice solving problems will not magically get better at it. They need repetitions working on, struggling with and solving problems.
What if more adults resisted their urge to jump in and solve problems for kids? What if they said something like, "Wow, that's a tough one. But if any kid can figure it out, you can! Let me know what you decide to do."
Could our world use a few more kids who weren't rendered helpless by too much interference? In our classic audio 'Helicopters Drill Sergeants & Consultants', Jim Fay masterfully describes how to avoid sending crippling messages to kids.
Thank you for listening to and sharing this audio. Together, we can save the world!
About Jim Fay
Jim Fay is one of America's most sought-after presenters and authors in the area of parenting and school discipline. His background includes 31 years as a teacher and administrator, over three decades as a professional consultant, and many years as the parent of three children. Jim's sense of humor and infectious spirit have made his interviews, audios, videos, and books popular with educators and parents as well as the national news media. Jim has discovered that fun stories are the most powerful way of helping people learn. He often comments, "People seem to learn best when they giggle." You will find this delightful quality in many of our Love and Logic products
About Charles Fay
Charles Fay, Ph.D. is a parent, author and consultant to schools, parent groups and mental health professionals around the world. His expertise in developing and teaching practical discipline strategies has been refined through work with severely disturbed youth in school, hospital and community settings. Charles has developed an acute understanding of the most challenging students. Having grown up with Love and Logic, he also provides a unique…and often humorous…perspective.
About Love and Logic Institute
Trusted for over 35 years, Love and Logic is a philosophy founded in 1977 by Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D. It is the approach of choice among leading educators, parents, and other professionals worldwide.
The Love and Logic Institute is dedicated to making parenting and teaching fun and rewarding, instead of stressful and chaotic. We provide practical tools and techniques that help adults achieve respectful, healthy relationships with their children. All of our work is based on a psychologically sound parenting and teaching philosophy called Love and Logic.
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