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7 Valentine Suggestions For Office Romance
Barbara Pachter - Business Etiquette Expert Barbara Pachter - Business Etiquette Expert
Tuesday, February 07, 2012


                          7 Valentine Suggestions For Office Romance

Valentine's Day is coming and that means there may be romance in the air at your workplace.

"Yet, romance at work can be costly. If you don't behave properly, an office romance can cause conflict and negatively impact your career," according to business etiquette expert Barbara Pachter, author of numerous books, including her latest etiquette book GREET! EAT! TWEET!

Here are 7 guidelines from Pachter to help you and your significant other share a copier by day and a bedroom by night without hurting your professional image:

1. Keep the relationship private. Your coworkers do not need to know the details of your relationship. At some point, as your romance becomes serious and marriage is on the horizon, your coworkers should be informed – before they receive the wedding invitation!

2. Your boss shouldn't be your Valentine. Relationships are tricky enough without having your boss or subordinate as your Valentine. If you are dating your boss, have your reporting relationship changed. Also, before you start dating, find out if your company has any HR policies about romance in the office.

3. Don't let your guard down. It's easy to let romance take over on Valentine's Day. Displaying cards, balloons, flowers, Teddy bears, etc. may let colleagues know about your love interest, or make them very curious about who is sending you all these items.

4. Do not discuss your relationship on any social media sites. No posting information or photos on Facebook or sending tweets about it. You never know who will see them.

5. No physical contact in the office. Do I really have to say this? No romantic displays in the office! No secret kissing, caressing, hand-holding or sex in the office. This includes your behavior at office parties.

6. Maintain your other relationships. Don't stop socializing with your colleagues. Stay involved with your network.

7. If the relationship fails, be professional and adult about it. Even if you have been jilted and the relationship ends badly, you cannot vent your negative feelings in public. This is one of the drawbacks of office relationships – they sometimes don't work out, but you have to continue to see or work with the person. No matter how you feel, you must continue to interact with him or her in a courteous manner.


Barbara Pachter is a speaker, coach and author of numerous business books, including The Power of Positive Confrontation and When the Little Things Count. She specializes in business etiquette and communication for companies worldwide. Her client list features major organizations, including Microsoft, Pfizer, Chrysler, Cisco and Genentech.

For a review copy of GREET! EAT! TWEET! 52 Business Etiquette Postings To Avoid Pitfalls & Boost Your Career, contact: Joyce Hoff, 856.751.6141, or joyce@pachter.com

For a free copy of Pachter's communication e-newsletter, "Competitive Edge," your readers can call (856) 751-6141 (NJ) or go to www.pachter.com.



Barbara Pachter
Pachter and Associates
Cherry Hill, NJ