Many intelligent, caring women and men quietly worry that lasting love may not be available to them. Not because they lack wonderful attributes, but because dating feels exhausting, confusing, or discouraging. When that belief settles in, it often leads them to withdraw from opportunities and give up.
That is not a personal failure. It is a mindset pattern. And mindset patterns can be changed.
***Do you ever feel discouraged about finding someone who truly matches your Mind, Body, and Spirit?
***Do you wonder whether a partner with your values, lifestyle, and emotional depth really exists?
Even the quiet thought that finding love feels like too much effort is shaping your future more than you may realize.
The Heartspace® method is not about trying harder. It is about shifting focus. Almost every fear about the future is rooted in unresolved experiences from the past. When you gently release the past, you regain the power to consciously create the partnership you desire and deserve.
Some people hold the opposite belief. They feel certain that a wonderful partner exists for them. Yet despite optimism and effort, the relationship still has not arrived.
Do either of these inner dialogues sound familiar?
• I never
• They always
• There are not
OR
• I will
• I can
• I choose
A Heartspace® Truth Worth Remembering
No matter the goal, love included, the most successful strategies always contain these elements:
• Clear focus
• Consistent practice
• A joyful and magnetic emotional state
• Conscious co-creation with a partner
This is the formula that works.
If you have been learning the Heartspace® Method, you may already have a PerfectLifepartner© Checklist with fifty to one hundred statements describing the partner you are calling into your life.
This is not just a list.
It is a clarity practice.
It is an emotional alignment practice.
It brings your future into focus now.
Manifesting Your PerfectLifepartner© with Heartspace®
1. Create a list of fifty to one hundred positive present-tense statements describing your PerfectLifepartner©.
2. Use a Word document so you can easily reorder items as clarity evolves.
3. Include everything that truly matters to you. Disappointment does not come from wanting too much. It comes from not naming what is essential.
4. Your goal is to know your partner candidates so clearly that recognition feels immediate. If something does not matter to you, do not include it.
5. Use only positive present tense language. Every statement describes what you do want. This gently places you into a visionary Heartspace® state where attraction becomes natural rather than forced.
Essential Attributes to Keep at the Top of Your List
Choose the version that aligns with your orientation.
He is mentally healthy
He is physically healthy
He is single
He is monogamous
He is actively seeking his PerfectLifepartner© now
He loves me unconditionally
He is financially responsible and self-supporting with clear specifics
OR
She is mentally healthy
She is physically healthy
She is single
She is monogamous
She is actively seeking her PerfectLifepartner© now
She loves me unconditionally
She is financially responsible and self-supporting with clear specifics
Key Categories to Include
Physical attributes
Emotional qualities
Intellectual compatibility
Lifestyle and hobbies
Family values
Geographical preferences
Financial values
Sexual Compatibility Statements May Include
We are a perfect sexual fit
We enjoy the same frequency of intimacy
We enjoy the same style of foreplay
We experience pleasure and desire together
We smell and taste delicious to one another
We choose sexual exclusivity with each other
Clarifying Details
For income and height, list the minimum acceptable number.
For age and weight, list the maximum acceptable number.
Begin each statement with one of the following:
He is
She is
He has
She has
We are
We enjoy
Privacy and Emotional Safety
If there are items you prefer not to share, that is completely fine. They must still be included on your personal list. Complete clarity creates momentum.
Examples Shared by Heartspace® Clients
Use these only as inspiration.
He tells me he loves me every day.
She looks at me as if I am the only person in the world.
He writes me love notes regularly.
She creates a peaceful, joyful home.
We raise our children with cooperation and respect.
We make financial decisions together with trust and transparency.
Your Daily Heartspace® Evening Practice
Each night before sleep, soften your body. Slow your breathing. Bring attention to your heart.
Then gently say:
Divine Light/God, please bring me my PerfectLifepartner©.
Read your checklist slowly. Allow yourself to feel what it would be like to already live this life. Emotion is the activating force.
Elite performance research shows that emotionally infused vision produces extraordinary results. The same principle applies to love.
If negative thoughts appear, use Heartspace Brain Breathing© or the Four Questions of Inquiry© to return to presence. Negativity blocks magnetism. Presence restores it.
A Loving Invitation
If this resonates, you may enjoy exploring the Heartspace® LOVE Trilogy. These books were created to support conscious women in dating, marriage, and intimate partnership through emotional intelligence, communication mastery, and heart-centered connection.
Next Step
Once your PerfectLifepartner© Checklist is complete, you are welcome to email it to me. Together, we can ensure each statement is clear, positive, and specific enough to help you recognize the wonderful potential partners entering your life. And it will also help you ignore the advances of others who are not for you.
For questions or support
susan@susanallan.org
818 314 1200
I’m here for you!
Susan Allan
The Marriage Forum Inc