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Which Self Do You Choose?
Jack Beauregard -- Successful Transition Planning Institute Jack Beauregard -- Successful Transition Planning Institute
Cambridge , MA
Thursday, April 18, 2019

Which Self Do You Choose?

The following comparison helps you choose which self you identify with: your False or True Self.



Intellectual limitations of the False Self:


  • ? Thinks rigidly and narrowly
  • ? Always has to appear "positive"
  • ? Uses All-or-Nothing, Black-or-White  thinking
  • ? Jumps between two opposite extremes


Intellectual advantages of your True Self:

  •  Thinks more effectively and creatively
  • ? Can see both the upsides and the downsides of any issue
  • ? Sees a range of options and possibilities inany situation
  • ? Sees change as a step-by-step process


The False Self causes you to have a limited identity:

  • ? Externally oriented
  • ? Always has to impress or please other people
  • ? Identifies with your roles and external accomplishments
  • ? Lacks an authentic foundation for making choices and taking action
  • ? Divides you into disconnected parts
  • ? Overemphasizes some of your aspects
  • ? Ignores, represses, or denies other aspects of yourself


Your True Self allows you to live from your whole, genuine identity—you can:


  • Be both internally and externally orientated
  • ? Identify with your own unique individual self
  • ? Make choices and take action based on what you really value
  • ? Recognize, acknowledge, and integrate all  aspects of yourself
  • ? Use all of your abilities, gifts, and  talents
  • ? Feel more complete

Emotional limitations of the False Self:

  • ? Feels unworthy of love
  • ? Not able to love yourself
  • ? Has difficulty giving love to other people
  • ? Avoids genuine intimacy
  • Fear-based 

Your True Self brings more love into your life, because you:

  • ? Know you are worthy of love
  • ? Can feel healthy self-love
  • ? Can fully love other people
  • ? Can create genuinely fulfilling relationships and intimacy

A limited (and limiting) Belief System, causes you to:


  • ? Feel trapped by old negative beliefs
  • ? Be easily thrown off course by negative circumstances
  • ? Become overwhelmed by change
  • ? Believe that only external   circumstances make you feel    important
  • ? Feel disconnected from your own genuine sources of meaning and purpose

An expanded, empowering Belief System, causes you to:

  •  Recognize your innate power to create effective change
  • ? Stay centered, no matter what
  • ? Transform negative circumstances (past, present, and future) into positive outcomes
  • ? Connect to your own inner sources of meaning and purpose
  • ? Know that your life is innately important

The False Self causes you to:

  • Have an illusionary perspective
  • Live behind a mask 
  • Lie 
  • Rationalize  
  • Be inauthentic 
  •  Be unaware of what's important
  •  Live a misspent life
  •  Be a denier
  •  Use power & control
  • Have a weak presence
  • Be unhappy


Your True Self causes you to:

  • Have a realistic perspective
  • Be transparent
  • Be truthful
  • Be responsible
  • Be authentic
  • Live from core values
  • Live a purposeful life
  • Be aware
  • Be a strong influencer
  • Have a strong presence
  • Be happy


If you choose the True Self, then you would want to attend the Freedom To Be Your True Self online classes.





Jack Beauregard
Founder, CEO
Successful Transtion Planning Institute
Cambridge, MA