Many of us go through life chasing goals we never paused to question. In the thought-provokingvideo “What Do You Actually Want?”, Nathaniel Drew challenges viewers to strip away external expectations and get brutally honest about what they really want. He explains that clarity doesn’t come from scrolling social media or following the crowd—it comes from reflection, journaling, and asking tough questions like, “If no one was watching, what would I choose to do?” The answers might surprise you.

Drew’s approach emphasizes that identifying what you want is less about having a perfect life plan, and more about realignment. You start by recognizing what feels meaningful, energizing, and authentic—then take small steps in that direction. Your wants may shift over time, but developing self-awareness keeps you in tune with the life that’s right for you.

When was the last time you asked yourself what you truly want—beyond achievements and approval?
 What parts of your current life feel aligned with your desires, and what feels off track?
 What’s one small step you could take toward something you actually want today?

Join theAge Brilliantly Forum and share your reflections. Let’s help each other clarify what really matters—and design lives that reflect our truest goals and values.