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Festival Video: Grumpy, Cranky, Fussy: The Unspoken Symptoms of Grief
Gail Rubin, The Doyenne of Death, Funeral Expert Gail Rubin, The Doyenne of Death, Funeral Expert
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Dateline: Albuquerque, NM
Monday, December 27, 2021


Grief is a shape-shifting emotion. It’s not just expressed through depression or tears. We may not recognize that grief can show up in demeanors that are unpleasant or hard to live with.

In this talk, “Grumpy, Cranky, Fussy: The Unspoken Symptoms of Grief,” learn how to recognize and react to grieving people. This eye-opening talk is presented by Todd Van Beck, a funeral educator, historian, consultant and gifted storyteller.

In this video, at about 25:12 to 34:40 and 47:25 to 53:45, learn about how Ebenezer Scrooge in A Christmas Carol came to be the grumpy, cranky character of this story because of loss and grief. The unspeaking Ghost of Christmas Future shows Scrooge his own grave. Fear of death can promote personal death awareness, which can help us grow from our losses.

About Todd Van Beck

Todd Van Beck is a Funeral Educator, Consultant and Historian. He is the Dean of the College of Funeral Management at the University of Memphis and was an educator at Cincinnati College of Mortuary Science, Hudson Valley College, New England Institute and Commonwealth Institute. He is a gifted storyteller with deep insights into funerals, death, loss and grief. His website is www.ToddVanBeck.com.

This presentation was part of the 5th annual Before I Die New Mexico Festival, held October 30 to November 2, 2021. The Before I Die Festival concept brings together entertaining and educational elements to start conversations. Events are designed to prompt baby boomers and their millennial children to plan ahead for end-of-life issues. Videos from this year’s events and previous festivals are available online here.

Festival Sponsors

2021 Before I Die Festival Sponsors

A portion of the sponsorship proceeds and ticket sales from the Before I Die NM Festival were donated to 501(c)(3) charitable partner, Historic Fairview Cemetery, established in Albuquerque in 1881. The cemetery is the final resting place of 12,000 individuals, with remarkable stories reflecting the history of Albuquerque, New Mexico, and the United States of America. The website is www.HistoricFairviewCemeteryABQ.org.

Gail Rubin, CT, is author and host of the award-winning book and television series, A Good Goodbye: Funeral Planning for Those Who Don’t Plan to Die, Hail and Farewell: Cremation Ceremonies, Templates and Tips, and KICKING THE BUCKET LIST: 100 Downsizing and Organizing Things to Do Before You Die.

Rubin is a Certified Thanatologist (that's a death educator) and a popular speaker who uses humor and films to get the end-of-life and funeral planning conversation started. She "knocked 'em dead" with her TEDx talk, A Good Goodbye. She provides continuing education credit classes for attorneys, doctors, nurses, social workers, hospice workers, financial planners, funeral directors and other professionals. She's a Certified Funeral Celebrant and funeral planning consultant who has been interviewed in national and local print, broadcast and online media.

Known as The Doyenne of Death®, she is the event coordinator of the Before I Die NM Festival. She also hosts A Good Goodbye Internet radio show and produces Mortality Minute radio and online video spots. Her YouTube Channel features more than 450 videos!

Rubin is a member of the Association for Death Education and Counseling, the International Cemetery, Cremation and Funeral Association, Toastmasters International and the National Speakers Association New Mexico Chapter. Her speaking profile is available at eSpeakers.com.

Gail Rubin has been interviewed about funeral planning issues in national and local broadcast, print and online media. Outlets include The Huffington Post, Money Magazine, Kiplinger, CBS Radio News, WGN-TV,  and local affiliates for NPR, PBS, FOX, ABC-TV, CBS-TV and NBC-TV. Albuquerque Business First named her as one of their 2019 Women of Influence.

Sign up for a free planning form and occasional informative newsletter at her website, AGoodGoodbye.com.

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