Some of us want to be happier, wealthier, or healthier, and others want more love and peace. Whatever you desire, I have experimented for 40 years and have amassed 100 skills that have worked for me, my clients, and for thousands of others, and YOU can learn them NOW.
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The #1 Secret is eliminating NEGATIVE THOUGHTS by learning to look at facts, not feelings; investigating cause and effect, and adjusting any behavior you need to pivot to produce the BIGGEST results.
Often, the people who get stuck in that NEGATIVITY have "practiced" it for so long, they no longer realize they're participating in it. It becomes a habit. For them, a new disaster is often around the corner, and they don’t see a way out.
The first step to repairing this mentality is to realize that you are stuck in it. Only then can you pivot and SHIFT to success.
What you think matters. Take it from Fred Alan Wolf, Ph.D., a physicist and author who states, “There is no 'out there' independent of what’s going on 'in there’” (meaning your brain!). On a cellular level, Dr. Wolf is right. What we think and know creates our reality.
As cell biologist Bruce H. Lipton explains, "The subconscious mind is the primal mind and constitutes about 90% of our brain. The subconscious mind is habitual. It has programs in it—habits. These habits play automatically without us thinking about them."
The fact that it's subconscious doesn't mean it's unimportant. In fact, all of our habits exist in our unconscious minds. Not just the bad ones, but all of our learned behaviors — from walking and talking to how we treat others and think about ourselves.
So, what does this have to do with getting the life you've always wanted? As Dr. Wolf writes, “The only stored information our brains can retrieve is what we already believe is possible." Therefore, we ‘create’ our individual reality.
When I heard this, once the shock wore off, I realigned myself with the new landscape, fully focused on what I wanted. I developed a different mindset and more effective plans to achieve success. This is what I learned:
3 steps for clearing out self-sabotaging negative bias
1. Reframe your goals
The first step is to reframe your goals so that you will no longer focus on your future with hopelessness.
What happens to your life if you believe your goals are impossible? You back away from your goals and try to settle for less, which leads to disappointment and frustration.
When you settle for less, you convince yourself that this limited future is acceptable, even though it isn’t. You can waste years, decades, or lifetimes, and eventually you forget that there was ever a “bright young thing” smiling back at you in the mirror who had her/his whole life ahead.
Here's an example: Imagine a woman who was convinced she could never marry a man she would wish to spend her life with. She can only imagine settling for less. Can you imagine the misery of her marriage?
How about the man who hated his career and always had, but believed his situation was hopeless. Can you imagine any way in which he could enjoy his career or even truly dream of another one?
For every one of us who has felt stuck: What if the feeling of being stuck were the true problem, not the men, the job, or the marriage itself?
Yes, it's a lot to imagine, but it's worth giving it a shot and take responsibility. Your beliefs do affect your results every time, and all my clients and I have proven this for 25 years.
2. Identify where hopelessness may be sabotaging you
Look for times when you combine the words “I’ll” + “never” in your mind, speech, and writing, and work toward eliminating this phrasing. After all, what you say is perceived by your brain as truth, and this can create serious blocks that last a long time.
For this example, I'm going to talk about money. While I have been able to achieve increases in my income with my mindset, I’ve also observed expected funds disappear before they reached me, or suddenly “held up” for no apparent reason. This was when I realized that focusing my thoughts on desired results was much more complicated than I realized!
I am horrified to report that even the passing thought, “It’s too expensive,” has stopped my financial flow until I took reparative action. This negative statement becomes "truth" to your mind.
When you allow a negative thought to creep in and take hold, how does that affect reaching your goals? How long does it take for this to become a destructive habit?
While we can’t be irresponsible with money, seeing its arrival and working towards that is the solution that works, compared to using negative or even positive language alone. People who expect problems may not even realize that this is where they have focused. Even if you find this impossible to believe, you may want to consider the benefits of learning these skills to experiment with your own goals.
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Please be very honest with yourself, because we can each climb out of old programming VERY QUICKLY, and first, we need to see what it’s cost us.