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Do You Know The Commonalities of Sales, Job Search, And Dating?
Elinor Stutz  --   Top One Percent Influencer and Sales Performance Guru Elinor Stutz -- Top One Percent Influencer and Sales Performance Guru
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Dateline: Washington, DC
Thursday, September 1, 2022


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Do You Realize The Commonalities of Sales, Job Search, And Dating?

A message from a dating coach brings to mind the question, Do you know the commonalities of sales, job search, and dating? 

I had so many ‘first dates’ long ago that I couldn’t keep a record of them all. Back then, I was upset by the monologues the men gave me about their superiority. Yet they never wanted to know a thing about me. Their ego was unmatched until I entered the sales profession; the salesmen on the sales team duplicated the experience. 

Interviewing for jobs was similar. Even after considerable experience with selling was mine, one hiring manager blew me off. Upon seeing me enter his office for an interview, he said the following (I kid you not!):

‘Your resume is full of crap; get out of her and don’t ever come back!’

Being one who never gives up, I returned a year later. Thankfully the person was no longer there, and the job became mine. It proved to be the best of my career.


Finally, on an arranged blind date, I met ‘the one,’ and the process was very similar to what I learned about selling years later:

Today’s Theme:  Strive to build relationships ~Never Give Up!

  • Know values and priorities inside and out.
  • Match and qualify prospects.
  • Ensure words, actions, and deeds match

My Story

Sales, hiring, accepting a job, and finding a soul mate require that we know our priorities. ‘Qualify and Match’ became my motto before the acceptance of a new client or a job offer. The same applies to dating plus many business-related efforts on our path. It becomes challenging to experience a successful outcome if we don’t share similar values.

The one sales strategy that applies to career change, selling, and dating is striving to build a good relationship upfront before advancing to the next level. Upfront, the following two questions can help to move the conversation forward potentially: 

  1. What caught their interest in you to meet for a date or an appointment, and why?
  2. How do they see their future; what are their goals today and into the future?

Asking open-ended questions requires a more comprehensive answer. Accordingly, we more quickly learn about the other person’s thinking and whether there may be a good match with ours. Undoubtedly, we have each walked away from a poor job offer, a challenging first date, and a rude prospective client. 

We do well to learn from past errors, poor judgment, and less-than-desirable results. It then becomes easier to improve new efforts. And the process aligns with the commonalities of sales, job search, and dating.

HR.com’ Maximizing Human Potential’ 

Kindly and generously published my article, Recruitment and Applying Is A Sales Job’ : How to Influence the right job offer or applicant, in this month’s magazine.

Your Story: Do You Realize The Commonalities of Sales, Job Search, And Dating?

As you enter a new realm for your career or personal life, it’s good to seek commonalities with previous experiences. Doing so allows for adapting more quickly to move forward. Similarly, as you may change jobs or partners, it’s helpful to consider the pros and cons that went before to focus on the better steps ahead.

Authentic relationships are essential at all levels. Being yourself rather than attempting to be the person someone else desires never works out well. Finding a relationship, job, or client who appreciates your efforts is ideal as it will serve everyone best. Strive to do your best for others to enjoy all that you do. At the same time, select to work with those who do the same. All arrangements should aim for a 50-50 endeavor contributing to a fruitful conclusion.

In your quiet time, consider varying areas of your life with which you are pleased and wish to improve. Consider these questions:

  1. Is there consistency in all that you do?
  2. Can you transfer the success skills in one area that are lacking in another?
  3. How can you apply the best of what you do to your career?

In Conclusion: The Commonalities of Sales

The next step is to pursue what you want, how you want, with all you have until you achieve it! Reviewing the varying areas of life will give you insight into better ways to proceed. If you have doubts or questions, speak with the people you trust to hear their perspectives. Although you may not agree with everything they suggest, it will alert you to what you want to do most. Above all, never give up!

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As the CEO of Smooth Sale, after her near-death experience, Stutz adapted the motto, 

 “Believe, Become, Empower

 ” Nice Girls DO Get the Sale is an International Best-Selling and Evergreen Book – among the classics;

 HIRED! Helped many to secure the job they desired. 

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Sales Tips: Do You Realize The Commonalities of Sales, Job Search, And Dating?

  1. When we realize the commonalities of sales, job search, and dating, we can more easily improve our position.
  2. Come to terms with precisely what you want and answer ‘why’.
  3. Create a plan to pursue your desires for the near and far terms.
  4. Set goals to achieve by specific dates and attend to them every day.
  5. Be willing to revise plans when they appear not to work as well as you initially thought.
  6. Upon seeing one strategy working well, attempt to apply it to another area of life.
  7. Attempt to build professionally friendly relationships wherever you are.
  8. Remain true to your values and priorities.
  9. Remember that ‘trust is the soul of sales and all else that you do.’
  10. Celebrate Success!

Today’s insights are provided to help you achieve the Smooth Sale!


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Elinor Stutz, CEO of Smooth Sale, delivers inspirational keynotes at conferences and authored: The International Best-Selling Book, Nice Girls DO Get the Sale: Relationship Building That Gets Results.” In addition to being translated into four languages, it reached the remarkable and unique level of being hailed Evergreen. Stutz’ commitment to community service led to the writing of her second best-selling book, HIRED! How to Use Sales Techniques to Sell Yourself On Interviews.”

Kred proclaimed Stutz as a “Top 1% Influencer for Social Media,.  CEO World Magazine named Stutz as one of “The brightest sales minds to follow on Twitter”.  Bizzhum and NowISeeIt both named the Smooth Sale Blog as one of the “Top 100 Most Innovative Sales Bloggers.”  Stutz consults and speaks worldwide.

Connect with Stutz:

Twitter: @smoothsale  
LinkedIn: Elinor Stutz

Youtube:  Elinor Stutz

Elinor Stutz (she/her/hers)
International Bestselling Author, Top 1% Influencer, Inspirational Speaker
Smooth Sale 



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