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Dear Abby Agrees: You Need to Plan Ahead
Gail Rubin, The Doyenne of Death, Funeral Expert Gail Rubin, The Doyenne of Death, Funeral Expert
For Immediate Release:
Dateline: Albuquerque , NM
Saturday, July 15, 2017

Dear Abby

Dear Abby

In the second letter of her column on July 14, Dear Abby ran a letter from a woman whose father put all his vital information into a notebook he called “Jack’s Doomsday Book.” It contained account numbers and balances, names of banks, passwords, locations of documents and other detailed instructions on how to take over his responsibilities if he was incapacitated. He always said that if something happened to him, to find that notebook in which everything was written down.

This is excellent advice. I hope you are taking note of this tip and actually pulling this information together. Why is this a good idea?

The author wrote: “I didn’t have to go searching through paperwork to figure out what was what. I knew the banks I had to go to and what to bring. It was all there, down to the changes he had made after Mom passed. Even our financial adviser was impressed at how easy Dad made everything for us. Everyone should have a doomsday book.”

Dear Abby replied:

I couldn’t agree more. I admire your father’s pragmatism. Too many adults fail to plan ahead for this kind of inevitability, which causes additional problems for survivors at a time when they are trying to cope with their grief. Readers, if you haven’t already done something similar, you should consider it.

If you need some motivation to pull your information together, download the free 50-point Executor’s Checklist from KICKING THE BUCKET LIST: 100 Downsizing and Organizing Things to Do Before You Die. Seeing everything that needs to be done to close down an estate is a sobering reminder of how vital it is to create your own “Doomsday Book.”

You can also get a good start on collecting the information needed with the free planning form at AGoodGoodbye.com. Just enter your name, email and zip code in the box on the right side of the screen and you’ll get instant access to a downloadable Word or PDF document.

Gail Rubin, CT, is author and host of the award-winning book and television series, A Good Goodbye: Funeral Planning for Those Who Don’t Plan to Die, Hail and Farewell: Cremation Ceremonies, Templates and Tips, and KICKING THE BUCKET LIST: 100 Downsizing and Organizing Things to Do Before You Die.

Rubin is a Certified Thanatologist (that's a death educator) and a popular speaker who uses humor and films to get the end-of-life and funeral planning conversation started. She "knocked 'em dead" with her TEDx talk, A Good Goodbye. She provides continuing education credit classes for attorneys, doctors, nurses, social workers, hospice workers, financial planners, funeral directors and other professionals. She's a Certified Funeral Celebrant and funeral planning consultant who has been interviewed in national and local print, broadcast and online media.

Known as The Doyenne of Death®, she also hosts A Good Goodbye Internet radio show and produces Mortality Minute radio and online video spots. Her YouTube Channel features more than 400 videos!

Rubin is a member of the Association for Death Education and Counseling, the International Cemetery, Cremation and Funeral Association, Toastmasters International and the National Speakers Association New Mexico Chapter. Her speaking profile is available at eSpeakers.com.

Gail Rubin has been interviewed about funeral planning issues in national and local broadcast, print and online media. Outlets include The Huffington Post, Money Magazine, Kiplinger, CBS Radio News, WGN-TV,  and local affiliates for NPR, PBS, FOX, ABC-TV, CBS-TV and NBC-TV.

Sign up for a free planning form and occasional informative newsletter at her website, AGoodGoodbye.com.

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Albuquerque, NM