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Elin Woods: Why is the Wife Often the Last to Know?
Dr. Jean Cirillo, PhD, J.D., Psychologist Dr. Jean Cirillo, PhD, J.D., Psychologist
Huntington , NY
Thursday, April 15, 2010

Dr. Jean Cirillo
Jim Carrey received national attention for his famous remark on Twitter. To paraphrase, he claimed that there was no way that Tiger Woods' wife could have been blind to that much infidelity, and therefore, Elin must have been willing to go along for the ride.

While it is indeed possible that Elin Woods may have tolerated Tiger's affairs until one caused her public embarressment, there is another psychological reason why she may not have seen them.

The principle of adaptation explains how all humans grow accustomed to, and learn to live with bizarre situations. We become desensitized to odd behaviors in those we see every day; especially if those behaviors are minor at first, and escalate gradually.

These factors account for family members of drug addicts, murderers, rapists, and severely mentally ill. The persons close to the one with the problem are not ignoring, covering or condoning the disturbed behavior. Rather, it seems normal to them!

Before we condemn Elin Woods for turning a blind eye to her husband's infidelity, let's remember that we allhave 20/20 hindsight. It is easy to see the warning signs after the truth comes out; even easier if you are a distance away from the situation.

Rather than judge Elin Woods lack of foresight, it is important to remember that for everyone. The hardest thing to see is that which is closest to our eyes, our own nose
Dr. Jean Cirillo
Huntington, NY
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