I love Supernanny Jo Frost. Every parent who has looked for more effective parenting solutions has paid attention to Supernanny's naughty mat and time-out techniques for loud, rambunctious and pushy behavior. Although Supernanny's techniques work with younger children, and she was way ahead of her time with parenting solutions, what if there was a "+1" to her method that would create a more positive result overall? What if these same techniques worked with older children and teenagers to produce cooperation, self-control and self-discipline in the home?
It is normal for young children to be loud, pushy and obnoxious at times, and children would love to have an environment where they can be rough and play. They would also love to be accepted and loved for who they are. You have the ability to find the correct environment for loud, pushy and rambunctious behavior so you can encourage the playful normal behavior of your child or teenager.
Read on to discover parenting style techniques from Thomas, creator of the Creating Champions for Life philosophy that add a +1 to Supernanny Jo Frost's naughty mat.
1. Set up the environment in advance by asking your child or teenager, "Where is the best place to be loud, pushy and rambunctious, little Timmy?" They will give you the right answer, "At the park, Mom." Or "In the backyard, Dad." "Perfect, Timmy, so the next time you are fighting with your sibling, running around, and being loud, where will you go?" "Outside, Mom and Dad." Then, you can praise little Timmy, "Oh, look at you, you are so smart, Timmy. That's what I love about you so much. You always know the correct answer."
2. Ask question and quantify what they are doing. Here are some questions you can ask to always be in an environment of saying yes and giving positive messages to your child or teenager by having your child tell you what actions they are choosing for themselves.
a.) Where is a good place for pushing, Timmy?
b.) What are good things to push?
c.) When is it alright to push someone?
d.) Where is the best place for you to run around and yell?
e.) What is good indoor behavior?
Once you ask your child or teenager these questions and realize that they are very intelligent you will become a believer that they will always know the correct answer. The next time they are running around the house, before you warn, enforce or reward any behavior, just ask them, "Where is the best place for running?" When they say outside and go outside, you are guiding your child's behavior with questions, lovingly, with positive belief in them. You may be surprised when you see that they love pushing their brother on the swing at the park and everything really isn't so naughty.