Here's the hard truth. A lot of men have been taught to pursue women who look delicious to them, and sometimes what looks delicious is a Venus flytrap — ready to snap and devour him whole.
However, an intelligent, emotionally mature guy will know how to walk away once he sees the truth. The same way you have probably left a man once you saw behind his mask.
Just remember, these examples work both ways; intelligent decent men and intelligent decent women become victims if we don't keep our wits about us and pay close attention to what a potential partner says and does.
Here are 7 reasons so many seemingly intelligent men fall for cruel women.
1. They are conditioned to enjoy playing with fire
The pop cultural juggernaut imposes a belief in men that they need a hot, hot, hot woman to make them feel sexy and powerful. This is the most common cause of dreadful marriages and horrific divorces with status-hungry men who let their egos convince them “Of course she truly loves me!”. There are going to be many beautiful women willing to be a trophy and status symbol on an intelligent man’s arm.
2. They are looking for a transactional relationship
Misogynistic men often believe marriage is a great Return on Investment, an ROI; the woman will be right there at home; cooking and cleaning, and be available and thrilled to serve his needs, in the kitchen, in the living room, and in the bedroom.
The truth they discover is that transactional relationships, just another word for a barter system, descend into drudgery. I've known gorgeous, brilliant, incredibly successful men in stale relationships because they treated their wives as objectified cleaning ladies who should wear high heels while they’re stirring a pot on the stove. It’s different, of course, if you are his woman and you love doing that! That is what is totally different about a transaction and real love!
3. They're looking for a business partner or to accumulate wealth
Powerful businesswomen appeal to ambitious men because they envision team efforts and big financial results. I’ve seen men whose lives, reputations, and accumulated wealth were destroyed because their greed and thirst for success in the business world were more important than finding a romantic partner who was honest and loving and a suitable match for them.
Then, when the marriage finally fails, there is a financial and emotional mess to clean up and those visions of financial reward are dust.
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4. They don't realize it's a scam
One of the craziest cons I’ve heard is a woman who asked a man to pay for her laser hair removal because she informed him that she couldn’t possibly be with him until he paid for the hair removal. Clearly, she’d never heard of the inexpensive hair removal techniques, and neither had he.
Of course, she disappeared after the last payment was made, and he never heard from her again. That’s a classic con game, if you pay a little bit of money; you’re promised a big reward; but it’s a scam!
Most people don't look for a scam in a romantic interest if they don’t have been a scammer themselves. For those of us who have been targeted by miscreants on the take, our naïveté meant we didn't understand the scammer's mindset. For a truly upstanding guy to prevent being conned, he needs to work hard to see the scam coming at 50 paces without getting sucked into the lovely façade.
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