People being controlled, whether young or old, have low motivation to carry out decisions IMPOSED on them. As a result, enforcement and maintaining that control is both difficult and time-consuming. This is very evident in schools where teachers spend so much classroom time “playing police” by using outdated discipline techniques that aim at enforcing rules, rather than by teaching procedures and inspiring responsible behavior. No wonder so many people are in need of discipline help!

Controlling people aims at obedience, and obedience is not the same as discipline. Except where the relationship is so strong that the person being controlled feels that the control is in his or her own best interest, control rarely brings either desire or commitment.

Control is only temporary. In the final analysis, people change themselves. The most effective way to actuate change in others is through enlightened leadership. This type of leader leads through the vision they project and the manner in which they deal with others.

Successful leaders, teachers, and parents empower, not overpower. They are positive, not negative. They encourage others by sharing their expectations, not by telling others what to do. These leaders treat people with dignity and respect knowing that, in the vast majority of cases, people will reflect on their own choices and make ones that meet the leaders’ expectations.

How would you rate your discipline and leadership style?