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Tips for Transforming Self-rejection into Self-acceptance
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Elayne Savage. Ph.D. -- The Rejection Expert Elayne Savage. Ph.D. -- The Rejection Expert
San Francisco , CA
Saturday, September 12, 2020

 
Tips for Transforming Self-rejection into Self-acceptance 
 
- Ask yourself, "Am I taking this personally and feeling rejected in some way?" 
- Ask yourself, "Am I setting myself up for disappointment by trying to read someone's mind or expecting them to read mine?"
- Remind yourself that disappointment often feels like rejection.
- Separate the 'Then' from the 'Now.' Certain childhood messages and beliefs may no longer carry their earlier power.
- Walk alongside yourself, noticing and naming. Observing gets the flow going opens up space for options.
- Keep reminding yourself that you do have choices.
- Don't presume or f'ill in the blanks' — check things out.
- Check in with yourself about your personal boundaries. 
- Remind yourself there is a difference between needs and neediness.
- Ask yourself what you want or need each day and from whom. 
- Practice asking directly for what you need. 
- Ask about the other person's needs.
- Remember that allowing vulnerability is a strength. It's very different from feeling vulnerable.
- Remind yourself if you're uncomfortable in a situation you can take a time-out. 
- Practice making eye contact and saying "thank you" to compliments.
 
This 'reminder' helps me out when negativity creeps in: "Try self-respect instead of self-reject."TM  
 
News Media Interview Contact
Name: Dr. Elayne Savage
Title: The Queen of Rejection
Group: Relationship Coach, Professional Speaker, Author
Dateline: San Francisco Bay Area, CA United States
Direct Phone: 510-540-6230
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