Some fall into it. Some uncover every stone in search of it. And some waste no time recognizing and accepting when it’s right in front of them. How people find love differs from person to person, of course. But the secret to finding true love – at any age – has a common theme among those fortunate enough to have known it.

Have you ever known someone who just seems to effortlessly manifest desires, goals, and visions? From school to sports to jobs to dating – it all seems to come so easily. (And chances are this is a person you would “hate” if s/he weren’t so darn likable, too.)

People like this may not know anything different. “Everything has always come easily for me. I can’t explain it.”

And yet, everyone around these superstars sees a “magnet” for all things good. It’s as enviable and inspiring as it’s maddening.

What may be most obvious is how they always seem to attract good things to themselves.

What may not be so obvious is how they prepare themselves to attract the things they want.

Sure, some may be the beneficiaries of occasional strokes of luck. But the bigger picture is really defined by the Law of Attraction.

The idea that “opposites attract” is, I believe, more about “complementing” one another. You’re good at this, I’m good at that, and together we make a great team.

However, when it comes to the secret to finding true love, like attracts like.

Put another way, you attract what you focus on. Your thoughts are like magnets. What you send out is like a magnet that attracts and manifests more of the same.

In this way the Universe displays a slightly twisted, even humorous, benevolence. That is, it is set up to allow you to always be right.

Convinced you’ll never find love? Bingo!

Confident that fulfilling love is on its way to you? Bingo again!

This is about the conditioning of your mind, and it has nothing to do with age.

It’s about being genuinely confident and positive, but not cocky.

The secret to finding true love doesn’t begin and end with “thinking positive thoughts,” of course. But, without an understanding of how you attract and manifest the very content of your mind, your dating life won’t be as fruitful as it could be.

Let’s use the example of a woman who has had a painful breakup and has decided that relationships are of no use. “All men are self-centered, sex maniacs, and non-committal.”

Guess what she is going to continue attracting to herself, even if she thinks she has sworn off relationships?

In her mind, she has been “wronged,” and everything in the future is going to be a repeat of the past.

Right again!

Now let’s use the example of a man who has also had a painful breakup, but has a different perspective on it.

He hurts for the loss of love, companionship, and the hope of a future together.

He hurts for the ways he wasn’t the partner he could have been and for not knowing how to communicate better within the relationship.

He also hurts for the woman he loved, knowing that she is a good person and her heart is also broken.

They may not have been right for one another in terms of forever, but he knows that the right one is out there.

He knows that finding true love is difficult, and it doesn’t always show up on a first date or in a first relationship.

What power does he have, then? Does he need to just wait it out and hope love shows up with “forever” written on a gift tag?

Unlike the woman who “decided” that the pursuit of love was useless based on past experience, our male protagonist makes a different decision.

He decides to learn from his loss and reinvest the lessons into his unshaken belief that forever love is out there. And it’s not just worth waiting for, it’s worth working for.

There are lessons that come with the seasoning of age. But living long into life doesn’t guarantee their influence.

We all know people who walk to the ends of their lives under the dark cloud of a gloomy temperament. They resign their success or failure, their happiness or sadness, their love or isolation to the “whims of the gods.”

They don’t examine themselves for the strengths and weaknesses that contribute to everything they experience.

And they don’t hunger for the growth that relationships offer to participants who are willing to put in the work. (Perhaps it’s the “work” that scares them.)

While the high divorce rates for people over 50 can put a veil of discouragement over the idea of late-life marriage, true love is still possible.

Check out these inspiring stories of people in their golden years. Some are celebrities whose names you will recognize.

What stands out in all their stories is the openness of their hearts to love and the personal growth it offers. All of the women point to their spiritual growth and the opportunity to work on releasing hurtful patterns from their lives.

Most importantly, they had all done inner work that made them believe they were worthy of love.

The secret to finding true love at any age isn’t contingent on being marriage-minded, especially for people who have been married in the past.

It is, however, contingent on your personal belief that you are worthy of love and that you have love to give.

It is also contingent on your positive embrace of the discipline and responsibility involved in the practice of love…

…and the unequaled opportunity it offers for your growth.

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