“Distance means so little when someone means so much.”

Being a grandparent is one of life’s most cherished roles—but when miles separate you from your grandchildren, it can feel like time is slipping away. You might miss birthdays, everyday conversations, and those spontaneous hugs that come only with being nearby.

But connection isn’t limited by geography—it’s defined by intention. With creativity, consistency, and technology, long-distance grandparents can still be a vital, loving presence in their grandchild’s life.

In fact, research confirms this. A 2020 study from AARP found that grandparents who maintain regular contact—virtually or by phone—report closer emotional bonds with their grandchildren (AARP Grandparenting Study). These connections improve well-being on both sides, giving kids added emotional support and grandparents a renewed sense of purpose.

Here’s how to build strong, lasting bonds from afar—and enjoy every stage of your grandchild’s life, no matter the distance.

1. Schedule Regular “Connection Rituals”

Consistency builds closeness. Set up a weekly or bi-weekly video call and give it a fun name like “Grandparent Tuesdays” or “Storytime Saturdays.” Even 10–15 minutes can make a huge impact.

Video chat apps like FaceTime, Zoom, and Google Meet are ideal for staying in touch. For kids who prefer shorter chats, use Marco Polo (https://www.marcopolo.me), which lets you exchange quick video messages without needing to be online at the same time.

Action Step: Create a recurring calendar invite for your virtual catch-up. Make it a standing appointment that kids (and parents) can look forward to.

2. Share Stories, Not Just Updates

While it’s easy to ask about school or sports, storytelling builds deeper bonds. Share memories from your own childhood, tales about their parents, or even make up bedtime stories. This creates an emotional legacy and helps grandchildren see themselves as part of a larger family narrative.

According to researchers at Emory University, children who know their family history are more resilient, have higher self-esteem, and develop stronger identities (Emory Study).

Action Step: Use the StoryWorth app (https://www.storyworth.com) to collect and share your stories—either in writing or over video.

3. Get Creative with Snail Mail and Digital Surprises

Receiving something tangible creates excitement. Send hand-written letters, postcards, or small “just because” packages. You can also send digital care packages with photos, videos, or fun e-cards using services like JibJab (https://www.jibjab.com) or Smilebox (https://www.smilebox.com).

Even texting funny memes or voice notes can show you’re thinking of them throughout the week.

Action Step: Set a monthly reminder to send a note or gift—something small but meaningful that lets them know you care.

4. Play Together—Virtually

Games are a great way to bond and laugh together. For younger kids, apps like Kahoot! (https://kahoot.com) or ABCmouse (https://www.abcmouse.com) let you learn and play together. For older grandkids, try multiplayer games like Words With Friends, Scrabble GO, or Minecraft.

Board games like chess or checkers can even be played via screen using virtual tools like Tabletopia (https://tabletopia.com).

Action Step: Ask your grandchild to pick a favorite online game you can play together. Set a regular game night that works in both time zones.

5. Create Shared Projects

Whether it’s writing a story together, sharing a photo album, or growing plants at the same time, shared activities build a sense of teamwork and joy. Try using Canva (https://www.canva.com) to create a digital scrapbook together or Google Docs to write a silly story as a team.

You could also record joint video messages or interviews for a future family archive.

Action Step: Start a “long-distance project” together. Set a timeline and celebrate each small milestone.

6. Show Up for the Milestones—Even From Afar

Can’t attend a recital, game, or birthday in person? Ask for a live stream or video. You can also record a video message in advance to be played during the event, or schedule a special follow-up call to celebrate afterward.

Presence doesn’t always mean physical proximity—it means emotional participation.

Action Step: Coordinate with parents in advance so you can show up virtually—especially for key events like birthdays, graduations, or performances.

“Distance means so little when someone means so much.”

Being a long-distance grandparent comes with challenges, but it also comes with opportunities to model creativity, consistency, and deep love. Your grandkids don’t need perfection—they need your presence, your voice, and your stories.

So what’s one small thing you can do this week to strengthen your connection across the miles?

We’d love to hear your stories and ideas. Join the conversation in theAge Brilliantly Forum and share how you’re staying close to the ones you love—no matter the distance. Let’s inspire one another to make every connection count.