by Frame of MindApril 14, 2017

Today’s Client Spotlight: Randy Barber

Job: Proficio Partners coach, facilitator and speaker

Coaching: 10 weeks 1-on-1 Coaching with Chari Schwartz
and FOM Certification

How did you find out about Frame of Mind Coaching?
I listened to an interview that Christina Boyd-Smith did with Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching. After the interview, I reached out to Kim and had a great, long conversation. She really made me think about a lot things differently. She put me in touch with FOM coach Chari Schwartz, and she asked some incredibly insightful questions that I hadn’t ever thought of before. I chose her as my coach and I never looked back.

What was the best part of having Chari as a coach ?
She always knew when to dig deeper and when to just let things ride out. Chari asked questions that really made me think a lot about myself, the things that were going on inside my head and what was holding me back from what I wanted to achieve.

What were you struggling with prior to coaching?
Before coaching, I always wanted people to like me and I had a paralyzing fear of being judged. This interfered with my ability to achieve my goals. I was not aware that I was struggling with this at the time. Chari identified this issue extremely quickly and said, “Let’s explore this, because you’re spending an awful lot of time worrying about things that are outside of your control.” I honestly don’t believe I would have discovered this obstacle had I selected a different coaching company.

How did FOM Coaching impact your fear of judgement?
I approach things way differently now than I did before. I don’t get so consumed by how people see me, and I show up much more authentically today than I did a year ago. I know for a fact that I am much more aware of how my thoughts affect my behaviors, expectations and therefore my results. I am much better equipped today to catch things early and change them before they spiral out of control. Without FOM Coaching, that never would have happened.

What was it like journaling everyday and receiving feedback from your coach?
The FOM way of looking back at your influencers and defining moments and writing things down that haven’t been front and center in your mind is so effective and important. I had never journaled before, but I am now a convert. Things that you would otherwise miss come out in your writing.

As a coach yourself, how has FOM Coaching changed how you coach?
My own coaching philosophy has changed. The only coaching model I had seen before was the accountability-based model. Unlike FOM Coaching, accountability doesn’t get at the root cause of our thoughts and behaviors, and so the impact is short-lived.

Why did you decide to attend FOM Methods?
In the middle of coaching, I asked Chari how to become certified in the FOM methodology because it resonated with me so much. I had already decided that I wanted to incorporate it into my own business.

What was your biggest takeaway from FOM Methods?
It was an incredible, enlightening and emotional experience for me. The people that I met in Toronto were fantastic, and it was the first time I got to meet my coach face-to-face. To have that opportunity to give them thanks in person for all the things that they’ve helped me with was very cool. And to meet Kim was a lot of fun; she’s such a great spirit and so willing to give of herself.

Would you recommend FOM Coaching to others?
Definitely. I would absolutely and positively recommend it to others, and I have!

How do you think other people perceive you? Are you afraid of being judged? In what areas of your life might this fear be holding you back? We can help you really pinpoint and overcome your fears. It all starts by taking The FOM Assessment.