It’s inevitable if you’re single and dating. Even your most earnest efforts can leave you frustrated by the seeming absence of quality and ready for a vacation from your love search. And, if you’re like so many of my clients, you’ve no doubt been jaded by online dating at least once. 

Where’s the fun in all this? Am I being unrealistic about finding true love? 

Trust me, your questions ring true with singles everywhere.

When new clients come to me for coaching, I can pretty much predict that they’re somewhat jaded by online dating.

They’ve been online for months or even years, and they’ve still not met that special person. It’s understandably frustrating.

Add to their frustration the success that some of their friends have had with online dating, even to the extent of becoming happily married.

For better or worse (no pun intended), over 80% of my successfully coupled clients have met their partners through an online dating site.

I’m sure that brings up mixed responses from those who are jaded by online dating. 

But, on the positive side, it should give them hope.

A lot. Of hope.

So what’s a person who’s seriously searching for love to do when the pickings seem bare and not worth the effort?

If you’re frustrated with the online dating world, study the following suggestions. And think about how small shifts in your mindset and profile can improve both your presence and your chances of attracting a great partner.

Here are my 6 tips for singles who are jaded by online dating:

1. Make sure your photos reflect you and how you look today.

   You don’t want someone to not recognize you or to get angry that you don’t look like your photo when you meet in person.

   “Photo honesty” is as much an issue of trust as being true to your word.

   Think from your viewer’s perspective: What would you think about “you” if you were seeing your picture in a field of hundreds?

   With that in mind, how well do you think those smartphone-in-the-bathroom mirror selfies are going to work? (Hint: They’re a big turn-off…for a lot of reasons. So just…don’t.)

   Also, do your best to post an attractive photo of yourself that pops, especially for your primary photo.

2. Put your goal of dating upfront so members will know why you’re looking for a partner.

   I’ve discovered over two dozen reasons that people date, and only a handful involve a serious, committed relationship.

   If you’re seeking a marriage-minded person to date, don’t be shy about saying so. You’re looking for someone who already wants the same things as you, right?

   Less time guessing equals less time waiting…and more time dating!

3. Describe who you are “on the inside” and your positive impact on those who are close to you.

   
   What makes you a good potential partner?

   This is not the time to hide behind humility. Don’t be arrogant, but be honest about your best relationship qualities.

4. Share how you spend time when you’re not working.

   
   If you’re retired, describe how you spend your time during a typical day.

   And include creative, fun photos that will make a great match want to join you.

   The objective is to show your potential partner how you’ll be spending your time together and how you’ll be enjoying yourselves.

5. Talk about the values and interests you want to share with a partner.

   
   This is an important expression of your couple vision, which is one of the first things I help clients develop and articulate.

   We connect through shared values. You’ll get the “I like that too!” response from potential partners.

6. Work on improving your messaging and responding experience.

   
   You want to actually meet a potential partner and not become a long-term pen pal.

   (We will work on this strategy in detail during the coaching process.)
   

These are some of my most important tips for how to improve your dating experience if you’re currently jaded by online dating. 

I have a proven process I take my clients through to make sure they’re communicating and attracting the right kind of person. 

And this process can work for you, too.

If you’ve had it with online dating, you’re not alone!

You’re also not doomed to singlehood. 

You’d be surprised how dramatically some simple refinements made in the spirit of perseverance can improve your dating experience and outcome!

Several of my clients have invited me to their weddings. And they had met their perfect person online, often within three to six months of our coaching.

Tired of online dating not working for you? Let’s do something about that!

Go to www.TalkWithCoachAmy.com today!

I intentionally limit my monthly availability for a Meet Your Mate This Year Strategy Session. 

I hope to see you in one of the coveted spots! And let’s get you dating wonderful people so you can meet your true love.