by Frame of MindNovember 23, 2017

 
 
To our American friends: Happy Thanksgiving!

What are you grateful for this year? All of the things and people you have in your life? There is a lot to be thankful for, but what do you do when things feel not-so-stellar?

Here’s how to look for the good in the most unlikely places:

1) Messes
Maybe you, your kids or your spouse left a mess. There are crumbs on the counter, dishes in the sink and clothes on the floor. This could mean that you’re surrounded by a bunch of messy, self-absorbed individuals. It could also mean that you have food to eat, dishes to use and clothes to wear. The choice is yours.

2) Conflicts
Conflicts happen – with your colleagues, your friends, your family and even with strangers – and they often feel uncomfortable. Conflicts can also be healthy and a useful tool for moving forward. Assuming positive intent about the person you are in conflict with will help you both come to a common understanding.

3) Pain
Pain, both emotional and physical, is something we all experience in life. We mostly try to avoid pain and get rid of it. However, pain can be seen as an indicator that you are still breathing and have a life to live.

4) Traffic
What crossed your mind when you just saw the word Traffic? Dread? Stress? Anger? How about Opportunity? Being stuck in traffic is like winning the time lottery! Listen to an audiobook or a podcast. Or pull a Becca: every time FOM Coach Becca drives from her home in Pennsylvania to Toronto for FOM Methods, she spends the whole ride catching up with friends, family and clients on Bluetooth.

5) Taxes
Taxes are a gift that you give to yourself and to others, and giving feels good! Though paying taxes may seem like a loss, it is returned to you in the form of things like paved roads, health services and schools. They also help support those who need it.

Life’s little annoyances can be an excuse to feel lousy or they can be a cue for gratitude. If you appreciate the good that life throws your way and can see the good in bad situations, you have a whole lot to be thankful for.