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Cell Phone Courtesy Month Is Here
Cherry Hill, NJ
Thursday, June 30, 2005
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: CONTACT: Joyce Hoff
856) 751-6141 (NJ)
pachter@ix.netcom.com
Cell Phone Courtesy Month is Here
Since 2002, Sprint has rallied the nation for Cell Phone Courtesy Month in July. But has anything changed? Are things getting better?
"Unfortunately, no. Cell Phone Courtesy Month doesn't work if cell phone users aren't aware that they are not being courteous in the first place," says etiquette expert Barbara Pachter, who co-authored the book "The Jerk With The Cell Phone: A Survival Guide for the Rest of Us" ($9.95, paperback, Marlowe & Co.).
"I still notice a lot of bad behavior on cell phones—a lot of yelling, phones ringing at inappropriate times, and conversations I just don't want to hear—even during Cell Phone Courtesy Month"
Okay, so what can we do if this well-intentioned attempt to curb bad cell phone behavior hasn't succeeded yet?
"A better idea would be to institute Cell Phone Jerk Assertiveness Month," according to Pachter, who has worked with thousands of business professionals and numerous organizations on etiquette and assertiveness issues.
People need to stand up for themselves if they are disturbed by cell phone jerks—but they need to do it in the right way. "The bottom line," she adds, "is that people can learn to confront cell phone jerks using what I call Polite and Powerful behavior"
Unfortunately many people use ineffective tactics like staring at or "shushing" the person, and even more extreme and violent behavior, like yelling at people to "Shut up!" "When you are rude to a cell phone jerk, not only do you become a jerk yourself, but the cell phone jerk's behavior usually doesn't change" she says.
Pachter provides five tips to help people confront cell phone jerks Politely and Powerfully:
1. KEEP YOUR COOL. Try to remember, most people don't set out to be jerks. If you can give a cell phone jerk the benefit of the doubt, you're less likely to lose your temper when dealing with one.
2. BE POLITE AND POWERFUL. You speak up—that's the powerful part, but you say it politely. You say something like, "Can you please lower your voice, your conversation is disturbing us"
3. KEEP YOUR BODY LANGUAGE IN CHECK. You can say "Please" and "Thank you," all you want, but if you're clenching your teeth or wagging your finger, you're not being polite and powerful.
4. USE A CPEG CARD. If you don't know what to say, or don't feel comfortable speaking up, hand the person a Cell Phone Etiquette Guideline (CPEG) card that says something polite and powerful like, "Hi. Can you please put your phone on vibrate? The ringing is disturbing us" You can make them yourself and hand it out like a business card or "The Jerk With The Cell Phone" comes with three in the back of the book. (One woman just pretends to read the book in the direction of the cell phone jerk and the jerks gets the hint every time.)
5. LET IT GO. If it's a minor and passing annoyance, consider letting it go. If you're ever concerned for your safety, let it go. Pick your conflicts. You'll be less stressed that way.
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Barbara Pachter is also the author of "The Power of Positive Confrontation," ($14.95 paperback, Marlowe & Co.) and "When the Little Things Count "($12.95 paperback, Marlowe & Co.). She is co-author of several books including the "Prentice Hall Complete Business Etiquette Handbook" She is a speaker, trainer and coach specializing in business communications, business etiquette, and assertiveness issues.
Her client list features major corporations and organizations worldwide, including NASA, Pfizer Inc., DaimlerChrysler, Ernst & Young, and the University of Michigan.
For a review copy of "The Jerk With The Cell Phone: A Survival Guide for the Rest of Us" contact Blanca Olivery: 646-375-2571, or blanca@avalonpub.com.
856) 751-6141 (NJ)
pachter@ix.netcom.com
Cell Phone Courtesy Month is Here
Since 2002, Sprint has rallied the nation for Cell Phone Courtesy Month in July. But has anything changed? Are things getting better?
"Unfortunately, no. Cell Phone Courtesy Month doesn't work if cell phone users aren't aware that they are not being courteous in the first place," says etiquette expert Barbara Pachter, who co-authored the book "The Jerk With The Cell Phone: A Survival Guide for the Rest of Us" ($9.95, paperback, Marlowe & Co.).
"I still notice a lot of bad behavior on cell phones—a lot of yelling, phones ringing at inappropriate times, and conversations I just don't want to hear—even during Cell Phone Courtesy Month"
Okay, so what can we do if this well-intentioned attempt to curb bad cell phone behavior hasn't succeeded yet?
"A better idea would be to institute Cell Phone Jerk Assertiveness Month," according to Pachter, who has worked with thousands of business professionals and numerous organizations on etiquette and assertiveness issues.
People need to stand up for themselves if they are disturbed by cell phone jerks—but they need to do it in the right way. "The bottom line," she adds, "is that people can learn to confront cell phone jerks using what I call Polite and Powerful behavior"
Unfortunately many people use ineffective tactics like staring at or "shushing" the person, and even more extreme and violent behavior, like yelling at people to "Shut up!" "When you are rude to a cell phone jerk, not only do you become a jerk yourself, but the cell phone jerk's behavior usually doesn't change" she says.
Pachter provides five tips to help people confront cell phone jerks Politely and Powerfully:
1. KEEP YOUR COOL. Try to remember, most people don't set out to be jerks. If you can give a cell phone jerk the benefit of the doubt, you're less likely to lose your temper when dealing with one.
2. BE POLITE AND POWERFUL. You speak up—that's the powerful part, but you say it politely. You say something like, "Can you please lower your voice, your conversation is disturbing us"
3. KEEP YOUR BODY LANGUAGE IN CHECK. You can say "Please" and "Thank you," all you want, but if you're clenching your teeth or wagging your finger, you're not being polite and powerful.
4. USE A CPEG CARD. If you don't know what to say, or don't feel comfortable speaking up, hand the person a Cell Phone Etiquette Guideline (CPEG) card that says something polite and powerful like, "Hi. Can you please put your phone on vibrate? The ringing is disturbing us" You can make them yourself and hand it out like a business card or "The Jerk With The Cell Phone" comes with three in the back of the book. (One woman just pretends to read the book in the direction of the cell phone jerk and the jerks gets the hint every time.)
5. LET IT GO. If it's a minor and passing annoyance, consider letting it go. If you're ever concerned for your safety, let it go. Pick your conflicts. You'll be less stressed that way.
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Barbara Pachter is also the author of "The Power of Positive Confrontation," ($14.95 paperback, Marlowe & Co.) and "When the Little Things Count "($12.95 paperback, Marlowe & Co.). She is co-author of several books including the "Prentice Hall Complete Business Etiquette Handbook" She is a speaker, trainer and coach specializing in business communications, business etiquette, and assertiveness issues.
Her client list features major corporations and organizations worldwide, including NASA, Pfizer Inc., DaimlerChrysler, Ernst & Young, and the University of Michigan.
For a review copy of "The Jerk With The Cell Phone: A Survival Guide for the Rest of Us" contact Blanca Olivery: 646-375-2571, or blanca@avalonpub.com.
Barbara Pachter
President
Pachter and Associates
Cherry Hill, NJ
856-751-6141
856-751-6857
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