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Problems Arise When Work Spouse Relationships Become Workplace Affairs
New, NY
Thursday, August 16, 2007
In the current issue of Human Resource Executive, infidelity expert Ruth Houston comments on work spouse relationships that turn into workplace affairs.
Work Spouses and Workplace Affairs
The article, written by Julie Cook Ramirez, entitled Working Marriages, discusses the pros and cons of workplace relationships. (work husbands / work wives/ work spouses/ office husbands, office wives, office spouses) . Excerpts from this article with Ruth Houston's comments appear below.
By definition, work-spouse relationships are platonic. However, it's the potential for hanky panky that makes relationship experts leery of such associations. Ruth Houston, an Elmhurst, N.Y.-based infidelity expert, founder of www.infidelityadvice.com and author of Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs, says it's all too easy for these relationships to morph into affairs.
"Sooner or later, the friendship becomes an emotional bond that can become a sexual bond if the opportunity presents itself," says Houston. "And more likely than not, it will happen because they're going to have to work late together or they're going to stop after work for drinks or travel somewhere together, and they're going to end up doing something that takes it to the next level"
Additional Comments about Work Spouse Relationships and Workplace Affairs
Expanding on her comments in Human Resource Executive Houston, who researches, writes, and consults on infidelity issues, says, "The bonds formed between work spouses are almost identical to the bonds between two people involved in an emotional affair. And emotional affairs are often the precursor to sexual affairs. That's why I caution work husbands and work wives to tread carefully. Today's work spouse relationship could easily become tomorrow's workplace affair. Many of these work spouse relationships are already in the danger zone"
Problems Caused by Work Spouses and Workplace Affairs
Houston says that regardless of whether a work spouse relationship remains platonic, or progresses to a full-blown workplace affair, it can still result in many problems, both day-to-day and long-range. Houston describes some of these problems below.
1. Work spouse relationships between a superior and subordinate often engender accusations of favoritism, even when none exists
2. Co-workers envious of the relationship between a work husband and work wife may attempt to sabotage their work.
3. Work spouse relationships which result in preferential treatment with regard to work assignments, raises, promotions or company perks will cause resentment among co-workers.
4. A work spouse relationship with a superior may earn a work husband or work wife a reputation as someone attempting to sleep their way to the top.
5. Being in a work spouse relationship can lower coworkers' perception of a work husband or work wife's job performance.
6. Work spouses may become the subject of office gossip.
7. The productivity of the work spouses and those around them may suffer.
8. Co-workers who feel alienated by a work spouse relationship, could accuse the work husband or work wife of creating a hostile workplace environment.
9. Things can become awkward for everyone involved, if a work spouse relationship deteriorates and the former work husband and work wife still have to interact with each other on the job..
10. If a work spouse relationship becomes problematic, the work wife may be transferred to another department or asked to leave the company. It's usually the woman who's penalized when work spouse relationships become a problem.
11. A work husband may find himself facing sexual harassment charges if his relationship with his work wife turns sour.
12. In a work spouse relationship between subordinate and superior, no matter how competent the subordinate may be, co-workers will assume that the subordinate's career advancement is a direct result of his or her work spouse relationship.
13. If a work spouse relationship ends badly, a vindictive work husband or work wife can sabotage the other person's career in untold ways.
14. A disgruntled or controlling work spouse can negatively impact the work assignments, raises, or advancement opportunities his or her work spouse receives.
15. Even if a work spouse relationship is not a workplace affair, it can give the perception of being one.
Work husbands and work wives who are concerned that their work spouse relationship may be in the danger zone are encouraged to request a free copy of infidelity expert Ruth Houston's Work Spouse Quiz. It will help determine whether or not a work spouse relationship in danger of becoming a workplace affair. E-mail InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with the words Work Spouse Quiz-ex in the subject line.
About Ruth Houston:
New York-based infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You – 829 Telltale Signs. Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in USA Today, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, Crain's New York Business, the Los Angeles Times, the New York Post, Maclean's, Cosmopolitan, Chatelaine, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle, Reuters, UPI, AP, ABC News.com and numerous other print and online media. She has been a guest on The Today Show, CNN, 1010WINS, Fox News, NBC News, ABC News, BBC, CBC and over 320 radio and TV talk shows worldwide.
To interview Ruth Houston, call 718 592-6039 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
Work Spouses and Workplace Affairs
The article, written by Julie Cook Ramirez, entitled Working Marriages, discusses the pros and cons of workplace relationships. (work husbands / work wives/ work spouses/ office husbands, office wives, office spouses) . Excerpts from this article with Ruth Houston's comments appear below.
By definition, work-spouse relationships are platonic. However, it's the potential for hanky panky that makes relationship experts leery of such associations. Ruth Houston, an Elmhurst, N.Y.-based infidelity expert, founder of www.infidelityadvice.com and author of Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs, says it's all too easy for these relationships to morph into affairs.
"Sooner or later, the friendship becomes an emotional bond that can become a sexual bond if the opportunity presents itself," says Houston. "And more likely than not, it will happen because they're going to have to work late together or they're going to stop after work for drinks or travel somewhere together, and they're going to end up doing something that takes it to the next level"
Additional Comments about Work Spouse Relationships and Workplace Affairs
Expanding on her comments in Human Resource Executive Houston, who researches, writes, and consults on infidelity issues, says, "The bonds formed between work spouses are almost identical to the bonds between two people involved in an emotional affair. And emotional affairs are often the precursor to sexual affairs. That's why I caution work husbands and work wives to tread carefully. Today's work spouse relationship could easily become tomorrow's workplace affair. Many of these work spouse relationships are already in the danger zone"
Problems Caused by Work Spouses and Workplace Affairs
Houston says that regardless of whether a work spouse relationship remains platonic, or progresses to a full-blown workplace affair, it can still result in many problems, both day-to-day and long-range. Houston describes some of these problems below.
1. Work spouse relationships between a superior and subordinate often engender accusations of favoritism, even when none exists
2. Co-workers envious of the relationship between a work husband and work wife may attempt to sabotage their work.
3. Work spouse relationships which result in preferential treatment with regard to work assignments, raises, promotions or company perks will cause resentment among co-workers.
4. A work spouse relationship with a superior may earn a work husband or work wife a reputation as someone attempting to sleep their way to the top.
5. Being in a work spouse relationship can lower coworkers' perception of a work husband or work wife's job performance.
6. Work spouses may become the subject of office gossip.
7. The productivity of the work spouses and those around them may suffer.
8. Co-workers who feel alienated by a work spouse relationship, could accuse the work husband or work wife of creating a hostile workplace environment.
9. Things can become awkward for everyone involved, if a work spouse relationship deteriorates and the former work husband and work wife still have to interact with each other on the job..
10. If a work spouse relationship becomes problematic, the work wife may be transferred to another department or asked to leave the company. It's usually the woman who's penalized when work spouse relationships become a problem.
11. A work husband may find himself facing sexual harassment charges if his relationship with his work wife turns sour.
12. In a work spouse relationship between subordinate and superior, no matter how competent the subordinate may be, co-workers will assume that the subordinate's career advancement is a direct result of his or her work spouse relationship.
13. If a work spouse relationship ends badly, a vindictive work husband or work wife can sabotage the other person's career in untold ways.
14. A disgruntled or controlling work spouse can negatively impact the work assignments, raises, or advancement opportunities his or her work spouse receives.
15. Even if a work spouse relationship is not a workplace affair, it can give the perception of being one.
Work husbands and work wives who are concerned that their work spouse relationship may be in the danger zone are encouraged to request a free copy of infidelity expert Ruth Houston's Work Spouse Quiz. It will help determine whether or not a work spouse relationship in danger of becoming a workplace affair. E-mail InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with the words Work Spouse Quiz-ex in the subject line.
About Ruth Houston:
New York-based infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You – 829 Telltale Signs. Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in USA Today, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, Crain's New York Business, the Los Angeles Times, the New York Post, Maclean's, Cosmopolitan, Chatelaine, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle, Reuters, UPI, AP, ABC News.com and numerous other print and online media. She has been a guest on The Today Show, CNN, 1010WINS, Fox News, NBC News, ABC News, BBC, CBC and over 320 radio and TV talk shows worldwide.
To interview Ruth Houston, call 718 592-6039 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
Ruth Houston
Infidelity Expert and Author
Lifestyle Publications
Elmhurst, NY
718 592-6039
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