It's just another busy day in a typical North American home at around five o'clock in the afternoon and Mom is walking in the door after a long day at work to see her two teenagers and pre-teenager sitting around on the couch watching a movie. There are dishes all over the kitchen table, empty chip bags on the living room table, and their school bags are all just dropped at the front door. Mom is either used to it, in denial of it, or she is about to blow. In any case, this is not a scenario that will have a happy ending no matter what you choose to do for discipline. I mean, I know this wouldn't happen in your house, but if it did, you would have to put your foot down, right?

Here Are 3 Positive Parenting Solutions You Can Use that Will Guarantee Your Children and Teenagers Self-Discipline, Responsibility and Focus.

1. Know the Reward for your child or teenager when they do a good job on their chores at home. Yes, it is your house with your rules and if you like what is going on right now with your child then keep doing what you're doing. If you would like to see more positive results with your child or teenager, you will begin to recognize and use what is known as their fuel, and your ammunition, their "why." Their why is there to help your child be motivated to complete their tasks and learn essential life skills. You can always make sure you have the correct motivator by listening to what they ask you for and by paying attention to which things are important to them.

2. Pre-frame your expectations with your child or teenager, either the night before or in the morning. Have a five minute discussion with your child about what your agreement is with them. Make sure they know that when they do this, this and this, they earn dinner, or they earn a good dinner, or they earn a great dinner. Confirm this by asking them to repeat back to you what the agreement is. Yes, you have to supply food but you don't have to supply butter on the veggies, or steak with their salad and bread, because, well, that is definitely a privilege. Privileges are earned in three sections: bare minimum, average and outstanding. Outstanding work earns outstanding dinner!!!

3. Teach them step-by-step how to do every task you ask of your child; teach them over and over again until they complete the task to your expectation. Don't assume your child knows what you mean when you ask them to clean their room, load the dishwasher or even put their clothes in the laundry basket.

4. Stick to your part of the agreement by making them earn the privileges in their life.

Stick to these simple but effective positive parenting strategies and you will see a positive outcome with your child or teenager every time you have a task to be done.